Well im 22 years old, and i just found out my girlfriend is pregnant.

Right now im just trying to find a way to tell my dad, and i havent been able to get up the courage to just tell him.

Its not that im afraid that he'll kick me out, im certain that wouldnt happen, but im just not sure how disappointed he'll be with me. He's always been a caring and helpful person, but im just not sure how he'd react to this.

For years he's been asking my older siblings to give him a grandchild, but the subject has never come up between me and him.

I work at Blockbuster, and i make about 7.50 an hour, which i know is no where near where i need to be to be able to take care of a child, and its the main reason i dont want to tell him.

I'm also doing an Unpaid internship at a Graphic Design company, which in the future could become a full time paid position, but at the moment it doesnt seem like its going to be happening soon enought to be a big help durring the pregnancy.

I'm currently looking for another job, but with the declining economy in michigan, jobs are very scarce and it adds on to the pressure that im feeling.

Any help or confidence boosters that anyone could offer would really be a big help.

Thanks

Hi there,

Hang in there, I know you must be feeling overwhelmed at the moment but everything does work out in the end. and this baby was obviously meant to be.

For starters I recommend you for sticking by your girlfriend. and even though it may be a bit of a shock to your Dad at first, I am positive that he will support you 100%.

It might be hard financially at first but I am sure it won't be long before you are in full term employment. Just think positive and stay positive.

I am not sure what the government benefits are like over there (I'm from Australia) but if it's anything like over here you should receive some sort of financial help from the government, at least until you start making enough money or your own.

When babies are young they don't need much, it's only when they get a bit older that it can become a bit expensive.

I know 22 is still young but you are and adult now and I think 22 is a nice age to start a family anyway so just think of it as a blessing.

I wish you the best of luck.

Hi,congratulations!!!I know it wont be easy but you have such the right attitude!I dont feel he would be dissapointed in you and i think the longer you wait to tell him the harder it will be.He may even suprise you and be really happy for you,the thing is babys are such a beautiful positive thing how can anyone be rightly upset?Your girlfriends age isnt too young either.Stay positive your doing the right thing by being honest with him,he should respect that i would.All the best!!

I think it says so much about you already that you have reached out here for advice and acceptance...you seem like a person on the right track with your future, the internship says a lot it says that you are wanting more for your future and working toward that....now more than ever that is important! I respect you very much for sticking by your girlfriend and hopefully will find the courage to talk to your dad. Prepare for a couple things....that he will be happy (but shocked) from the beginning and willing to advise and help you and your girlfriend succeed with this....and the second will be possibly be really shocked and a brief moment of " i can't believe this" and possibly some disappointment but I am totally sure as the other replies have mentioned he will be loving and supportive and happy in the long run. Life throws us curve balls and we can never predict what our future is supposed to be...but take what is given and do everything you can to find the silver lining and the positive....I am sure your dad will be so happy and I am hopeful your siblings will be happy for you as well :0) best of luck, i will send up a little prayer.

Well, first of all, congrads!
My fiance and I have been trying for ages to get pregnant. He lost his job back in Jan, and we are in michigan as well. He's having a real difficult time finding something too. But we arent worrying for now because what matters to us is that we have each other and hopefully we will make it through the first trimester and have a baby in our future. You will make it through the rough times financially, but the important thing to remember is that you have each other and that you show her that you are there for her with your whole heart and soul. The rest will fall into place. There are assistance programs for food, health insurance, and as hard as it is, you can always go to salvation army stores and find baby clothes and such. Babies grow so fast that to spend the big bucks on new designer stuff seems pointless when in a few short months they wont ever be able to wear it again. And your friends and family will be there for you. Even if they jump to financial stress initally, they will be there to spoil the baby when its born and for many years to come. Specially your dad from the sounds of it.
Dont let your girlfriend stress too much about the future. Stress isnt good for the baby. Just let her know you will be there no matter what. And with both of you in michigan, I'm sure EVERYONE knows how bad the economy is here and understands that even though it might take a little while to find that perfect position, you WILL find that full time job. You sound like a smart put together guy and you have a lot going for you. PM me anytime if you need to chat. My soon to be hubby would probably be a good person for you to talk to as well. As for telling your dad, I wouldn't put it off for long, but limit who you tell until after the first trimester. Your dad will understand, and the faster you tell him and get it over with, the better you will feel and then you will have someone to be there for moral support. Someone who has raised his own children and will understand how scary it truly can seem when you are having your first child. He will be there for you both. And everything will fall into place.
Take care, and congrads again.