I have a friend who says she is pregnant but will not stop smoking, doesnt want anyone to give her a shower and will not go register anywhere. I know the smoking part is a personal preference but with your first child wouldnt you want a shower, gifts etc? Her husband completed the nursery all by himself - she would not pick colors or anything. According to her she says she is due Sept. 15 but she does not have a "baby bump", still wears the same clothes she did when she got pregnant. She was not married to the baby's daddy at the time of conception- they did get married after she told him she was pregnant. There is suspicion from his family and some friends that she may be faking. I know we will know for sure in a few weeks if she is or not but I am also afraid for the baby (if there is one). What do yall think? Is this normal?

Its doesn't sound normal to me. It sounds really strange. And NO baby bump whatsoever but due in just a couple of weeks? That's pretty bizarre.

Hmm...that does sound weird. Has she been to the doctors? Any u/s pics? I'm sure her husband would want some sort of image or proof...

Very strange...

That doesn't sound normal at all....could a possibility be that she lost the baby? That may explain why she doesn't want a shower too...

The fact that you are reaching out to ask questions about your friend, shows how much you care. That could be exactly what she needs right now....someone who can listen and be a friend.

Thank you all for replying... I have not seen any pictures and no one in her or his family has seen pictures. His family is suspicious and contacted me to see what I thought. I havent asked her husband many questions because I do not want to cause stress between them if I dont need to. I do know that he was married but separated at the time of "conception". Divorce papers had been filed but not signed at that time. Divorce papers are now signed and the old marriage is over. The husband has no other children so I do not know if he would know to ask for proof or not. She is not a "huge" girl but wears a size 14 so I would think you would still have a "bump" especially if she is due in two weeks. I am just concerned about the psycological outcome of all of this. I do not know whether to talk to her husband about it or confront her. I hate it for all involved. She does not come from a close family - from what I have heard - due to some of her previous actions but I do not know her family to call and talk to them about it. I dont know whether to "wait and see" or what?

What was that comment about, "She is a huge girl, but wears a size 14" about?

Are you saying that size 14 women are huge?

No not at all - I re-read it after I posted that and realized what it sounded like. Some of the replies were asking if she was a "bigger" girl - I was trying to show she was not a "big" girl but she doesnt wear a size 8 either. Some people think a size 14 is a large size.

Ah, I had to reread your post too. Sorry - I did not see where you wrote " She is not a big girl"

Sounds like a soap opera!

Ok here is a plan - kind of morbid, but just go with me on this....

Invite her over to your house to secretly do a pregnancy test.

Take the light out of the bathroom, make it total dark. Set up the bathroom so that the toliet has one of those things that catches all the urine. Like what they use in the hospital to measure the output of your blatter after surgery.

After she flushes and leaves the bathroom, go in behind her and dip an at home prego stick in her urine, wait 2 minutes and bust her

OR -

Insist that she take a pregnancy test because you have to know what a positive one looks like. Tell her you have been trying to prego for months and are tired of looking at negative results.

Both are silly ideas, I know..... But I can't think of anything more silly then faking a pregnancy up until the due date either

Yikes! Didn't this happen on Melrose Place? (Ok- I am old!)
Sounds like she is trying to trap her man! I know someone like this but she DID have a baby to trap him. She just lied about her birth control pills. We feel really bad for her NEW husband.
She might be living this lie so much she might actually believe it herself. Confronting her might cause her to be angry with you for not believing her. Can you ask her other friends, or her family what they think? Maybe they can give you better input.
If she is pregnant, she is putting her baby at harm by smoking. Maybe begin to talk to her about that, then you can open up the pregnancy for discussion.
Secret trick I can think of: I didn't know the first thing about pregnancy until I BECAME pregnant. Try using words like amniocentesis and effacement and asking her about her delivery wishes. You might be able to tell if she doesn't know what she is talking about.
Good luck!

Good idea!