Bullying is more than name calling and threats. Bullying is judging and/or being judgemental towards one another. For Gods sake, the girl didn't ask you what you think about her being 13 years old and pregnant, she asked what in Gods name would make somebody HAPPY about a child DYING. How would you feel if your baby DIED in your belly? How would you feel knowing you would be able to see him/her once and never again? People telling you that your babys HEART STOPPED BEATING FOR THE BEST. You would never be able to look into your childs eyes and it was FOR THE BEST or they were GRATEFUL for this? Maybe 13 is way too young. But accidents happen everyday. Just because she is 13 doesn't mean she would love her child any less than you or anyody else would. That poor girl was looking for support and all you can do is sit there and judge her, telling her she's just a baby herself, she's way too damn young, etc.

HER BABY DIED FOR CHISTS' SAKE. HAVE A HEART. I'm so glad my pregnancy forum doesn't allow this kind of drama, there people are actually kind and loving towards eachother, no matter what age, ethnicity, or sex. A child isn't somebody we should judge eachother about.

Before you start ASSUMING things you should know that I have had TWO BABIES DIE IN MY BELLY! I had people be sympathetic, yes but they also said it was probably for the best. I was TWENTY AND TWENTY-EIGHT!

Why should people hold back their opinions because they aren't politically correct or don't agree with others? 13 yrs old and pregnant is a huge mistake in this society. I never made fun of her, never called her names or taunted her. This was a blessing in disguise and while it hurts her now, she will realize later in life that it was meant to be.

p.s. if you don't like this board so much then go back to "your" board.

"it's for the best"

I have told this line to numerous women after I tell them their babies heart has stopped beating. It's because it stopped for a reason - usually a reason that would not have sustained life had it made it to term.

A sick child/baby/fetus (however you wish to think of it as) passing on before it can know pain is indeed for the best.

Then please don't assume I'm only speaking to you. There are several people commenting on how young she is implying it's good for her. I can only empathize with the pain of a loss of your child. I'm telling everybody that she doesn't need to know that jesus she is way too young, no wonder her family is happy, etc. She lost a child and the pain of that would be enough to deal with without having comments like that thrown in her face.

That is true but I know alot of women who have lost their babies and I think alot of them don't understand unless you specify why it was for the best.

*sigh* I really don't want to start a big huge debate with you. Teen pregnancy is an extremely touchy issue and everybody has completely different views on it. I understand where you are coming from I was just saying that this poor girl probably feels like she was chased out of here and not supported or helped, being pregnant at 13 is way too young, but she will realize that later on in life + was only looking for sympathy. It's just a hard thing to grasp, understanding that it was for the best at the time that things like this happen. It's true, eventually you do understand and come to terms with things, but like I said earlier I can only empathize with the pain of losing a child.

I agree girl. Look we have thr right to our opinion. I know maybe some people were hard on her, and maybe some like Ms.Black think i am one of them. But i am tired of biting my tongue just for the sake of not pissing someone off. I dont think its a good idea for a 13 yr old to have a baby. That dosent mean that she deserved to have a miscarriege, but i do believe that this might have been the way god wanted it. How is a 13 yr old going to take care of a baby, shes a damn baby herself! We dont need another teen not finishing school and living off of welfare. This is what happens to Alot of young girls. Its not a life for any teen to be living.
By the way this post is very old. I am sure she moved on. Maybe she learned a lesson from all of this. Maybe not, maybe she is out there right now making the same mistakes. Who knows?

By the way i do empathsize with anyone who had suffered a loss like this. I think most of us do. We may have came across as harsh, but we are not heartless humans here. We just stated an opinion.

You are great!!! lol

Babies and Dolls are very different things - I understand that you may have 'wanted' the child right now, but are you honestly ready to take care of it?

like everyone else has said - if you wanted the baby so badly right now you will be that much more excited when you're finally settled down with someone steady, have a good paying job, and are done school!

Everything happens for a reason! Hope you understand this. Your parents are probably upset because they can see the whole picture, where as you're just focused on the baby - they want whats best for you in life, and right now... a baby isn't it.