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Old 08-02-2008, 03:32 PM
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I lost my baby at six weeks and it still bothers me. I decided to give her a name so I can acknowledge and always remember my first baby. I feel like it's a good idea for coping, on the other hand I don't know if I'm just thinking about it way more than I should be.


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Old 08-02-2008, 06:14 PM
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A name? You knew that it was a boy or a girl??

I lost my first child at 6 weeks. I went to some counseling and I thought the best thing that was suggested to me was to get a special candle and light it whenever I needed to in rememberence of my baby.

Not meaning to sound too casual but miscarriages are very, very common in the first trimester. No, it doesn't make it easier but just know that your body did what it did for a reason. Maybe the baby wasn't forming right so your body just disposed of it. Whatever the reason do your mourning but don't let it overrun your life.
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Old 08-04-2008, 03:11 PM
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in the future don't get attached ..wait till the second trimester ...just think of what was in you as period blood that the body is expelling or something...at six weeks its still too small to really be something. just keep trying to get pregnant again and i'm sure you will and don't stress, wait it out, and once your in the second trimester its safe to become more attached...just some advice
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Old 08-14-2008, 12:47 PM
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I also lost our baby at 6 weeks. That was only 6 weeks ago, and it does hurt. I understand what you mean about naming your child. For me I loosely refer to my baby as Joely. Mostly to remind me of a verse in the book of Joel that was an encouragement to me at the time.
I feel (felt) that since I was only 6 weeks along that it should have been "no big deal" since society says it was barely (or not at all) a baby anyway. I was trying to tell myself that, when a friend who also had an early miscarriage sent me a note. Telling me it was OK to grieve. Even though it was quite young, it WAS a pregnancy that was a life.
It still is quite hard for me at times, my brother and sister in law just had their baby (by adoption) yesterday. They told us they were going to have the baby the day after the miscarriage. It hits. And it hurts. And that is OK. Life will go on, true. But that doesn't mean you should just totally act as if it didn't happen or that it is "no big deal". Because it did and to you it was. No matter how common a miscarriage is, that doesn't lessen the pain on any individual mother.
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Old 08-22-2008, 09:18 PM
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I have never had a miscarriage thank goodness but I know I would be devastated no matter how far along I was. To me it would still be a baby that never was I don't think you should feel bad for grieving but if you feel like you can't move on from it or you feel worse as time goes I would talk to a therapist or someone close to you that you feel comfortable venting to. Talking is always a great way to get your feelings out.

Edit: And it's a little hard to tell someone to just not get attached until such and such time. I don't think I could dictate my feelings that way.
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