Thanks again everyone..just wanted to let you all know that my wife seems to be doing better now. We're both still pretty sad about it but it helps looking to the future and the possibility of having a baby. The NP told my wife to hold off on trying to get pregnant for at least 2 months. That's fine with us but kind of strange only because my wife doesn't have regular cycles. Oh well, we'll just wait and see..the only thing that is still really bothering her is that she can't decide whether or not to tell her parents (her mom mainly). She wants to tell her because she wants her mom to know that she was pregnant. But on the flipside, she doesn't want to tell her because she doesn't want her mom to be sad. Personally, I think she should tell her mom simply because it'll help her (my wife) cope with the loss better. What do you all think? Her mom came over to visit last night and my wife told me not to say anything. After her mom left she told me she thought I was going to tell her..and then started to cry?

Grieving a death is usually easier with the support of loved ones. There is a reason many cultures throughout the world have developed funderal traditions that involve the family and sometimes the whole community. Her mother will probably be sad but sadness is natural and can be cleansing both for your wife and her mom. It was very good of you to respect your wife's wishes, but you may want to gently suggest that there is nothing wrong with wanting the comfort of close family during such a difficult time. You may want to ask what would be easier for her--if she or if you told her mom. Her mom might rather have a chance to grieve the loss than to never know about it. Good luck to you both.

With my first mc, I had not told anyone except my husband that we were pregnant. When I lost the baby, I about went nuts. Of course, it happened at work (I work in an ER), so my co-workers were very understanding. I didn't take any time off for the first few days. My boss had to come to me and say "Hey, you are not yourself. Take a few days. Come back when you feel better". I thought I was going to have a break-down. For weeks I cried and cried.

My second mc, we told everyone right off the bat that we were pg. When I lost that baby, I felt like I had the support of the world with me. My friends and loved ones shared their mc stories and I realized that I was not alone in this sorrow.

Hello everyone, you were all so supportive that I wanted to share the news with you. We've been trying after the m/c and tested positive on Sunday! We went to the OB and the vaginal ultrasound confirmed that my wife is pregnant again! She is currently 6 weeks, 2 days! We are so happy but extremely nervous...maybe this will be the time for us. So far, so good. The Dr. was very nice and explained that everything looks absolutely perfect at this point. We even saw a tiny heartbeat

Question: Progesterone?

Should my wife use it? We brought it up to the doc and she said that there was no conclusive evidence that it helps the pregnancy either way. After the m/c all we did was read stuff on the internet. It seems like a lot of people swear that it helps the pregnancy along.

Welcome back and CONGRATS!

Progesterone supplements should only be needed if they test the moms blood levels and it comes back low. Barring this situation, progesterone supplements shouldnt be needed. GL!

Yay!!!!! Congrats!

nicholerh, thanks for the info!

Im Sorry About Your Lost But I Wanted To Tell You Dont Lose Hope I Lost My Baby Back In Sept I Was 12 Weeks But My Baby Died At 8 Weeks And Now Im Pregnant Again And Everything Is Going Great.... By The Way My Mom Had My Brother At 40 And He Is 5 Now Lol So Dont Lose Hope And You Can Get Pregnant Faster After You Had A M/c Wait A Couple Months For Her To Heal And You Guys Can Try Again

Good Luck

this is weird.. my parents were the exact same ages as you guys when they got pregnant with me. my dad was 41 actually and my mom 37. they had two miscarriages and one ectopic pregnancy while trying for me so i do think you guys have hope

This is great news! Congratulations!