Hi all, I am new to forums and have read through many of the previous posts on this one. It seems there are a lot of caring and thoughtful people out there. I'd like to read some comments regarding my situation.

I am 40 and 8 weeks along with my third child. 1st is 17, 2nd is 13. I have been in a loving and fulfilling relationship for two years. The only problem is that it's long distance. My boyfriend and I live 100 miles apart. He has a daughter in his hometown who is 10 (usual every other weekend visitation).

We just found out two weeks ago that we are expecting. We are very excited and look forward to all that is ahead.

I have been trying to sell my house (worst time ever) so that we can buy a house together in his town. No telling when it will sell, meanwhile we've got a little baby developing.

Before we found out about our baby, he didn't want to move here because of his daughter. With the new change, what is your opinion on whether he should move or not?

Wait, so you have to uproot your kids and your life to go be with him all while you are growing a human in your body?

Unless his job is making a ton of money, he sounds like a lazy inconsiderate bastard. Why put all the responseability on you? He is not carrying a child.

His daughter can still come visit. She only visits him on a bi-weekend basis anyway.