Hey,

I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 months now... and we have had a pretty rocky relationship with a lot of ups and downs and times of stress, distrust and other. We love each other deeply and care for each other extremely though. Yesterday.... she told me (through crying and hinting at stuff) that she was pregnant. I didn't get upset.. instead I held her and told her that we were going to figure it out together and that we will work it through. I tried to calm her down.. but then I started to cry also heh... I feel like a complete failure to her. I am. She is only 17. I am 19 turning 20. She is not a christian. We had a LONG talk.. which was more made up of us just holding eachother and saying little things here and there. We figured that if she were to carry it to term... she would give birth on May. =/ Right on her SR. Ball....

I know she doesn't want to have the baby. I don't blame her. She is still young... and I am not in a part of my life where I am financially stable enough to raise a child. However... me and her both feel that the baby (whether a boy or girl) shouldn't have to pay for a stupid mistake it's parents made. If she carried it to term... I know she wouldn't do adoption.. she loves babies and kids too much... so then I'm back to the money point. I don't know what to do... and this whole thing is digging in on me. I know it's time to "man up" and start getting prepared (I got 9 months).. for the just in case. I just don't know what to say to her to help her... or do for her. She said she isn't upset with me... that she loves me... but I feel like she really IS upset and she is just lying so that I stay with her through this or something... I don't know.. I'm lost... please any advice would help...

Well like you said you need to "man up". You may not be ready for a baby but you put yourself in this situation and now you have to face it. My neice got pregnant at 17 and her b/f was around that age too. She just had her baby and i honestly thought the guy would leave her but he is still around. Its hard work but having a baby at any age is hard work. I respect him for sticking around. So many young men just leave. I think that you need to just do whatever it takes to make it work. Hell my husband and i planned for a baby and we worry about money all the time. Babies are expensive but you can do it! So right now if i were you i would be looking for a job and doing whatever it takes to save up.
Also if you choose to leave her, which i hope you dont you may still be responsible for child support.

i got pregnant t 17 and i wasnt upset but i ws scared that my bf was going to leave financially how amd i going to raise a child if he left me and my mom told me god will never give u anythign u cant handle if having a baby right now is in ur destiny then thats the way its gotta be if she was (god forbid) to have a miscrriage then it wasnt meant to be believe me god WONt give u anythign u cant handle yes babies are very expensive (I know i have 3) but there are many places out there that will help with formula n stuff ( like the wic program) if u decide to keep the baby i wish u the best of luck and if no then i wish u the best of luck to

Just be there for her. It's going to be hard, and giving up a baby is probably going to be the hardest thing for her to do. But you have to think of what will be best for that child. Kudos for not opting for an abortion!
I didn't plan my pregnancy either, but things happen for a reason.

Just be there for her, that's the best advice I can give to you.
She needs to know that she is not doing this alone.